But if the while I think on thee, dear friend,All losses are restored and sorrows end.

Before, you ask, it's a Shakespeare quote.

I was thinking, DH and I had a chance meeting - we got together because of all the similar things we love and yet in personality we are polar opposites. He is solid and down to earth, while I am flighty and live in the land of Jane Austen; He is practical while I am emotional. We complement each other, he balances my extremes.

And yet it would appear that it is possible to find another person with whom I can connect on an emotional level, not because of the complementy traits as DH does, but because they fill the gaps that DH and I don't fill for each other.

I work on a face value opinion most times, I am emotional and work on gut instinct - if I took notice of the gut insinct more often I'd avoid a lot of trouble, but this is reigned in by doing the 'right thing'. Gut instinct is that DF & DM have a similar relationship, and I think because of this, there has been some easy male bonding between DH & DM with none of the usual bravado which is really refreshing. And DF & I have formed this very bizarre attachment. We seem drawn together by experiences and personality traits that are remarkably similar. It's so easy to see why DH was smitten with her when they were kids. She lives in the same state of self belief that I have - she is troubled that I may get bored of her, and I am troubled in the same way. I worry that the boys will find us too full on to the exclusion of them, which is not intentional.

It's a unique situation to have one person who complements every aspect of you with which you can feel almost part of the same skin, and then have someone who understands you mentally who you do't have to explain why you feel, you just do. Empathic is the word I was looking for there.

I can tell DH anything (even if I don't want to, I can) and he accepts it as part of who I am. In return he knows that he can tell me anything and I will deal with it calmly and logically - there will never be a fight where I will throw things at him without reason.

This, to me is how love and friendship is - compassion is compulsary; love is unconditional.

Although giving love ulitimately = getting hurt, better to have lived one day as a lion, than a lifetime as a worm (respond to this and you show your age!)